I won’t expect anything more than for you to be normal-but hopefully above average in bed.ĭon’t ever actually say the words “Do you want to come back to my place?” That’ll just make you sound desperate. For you and me both, it’s a case of innocent until proven guilty-a one-night thing unless it becomes something else.
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Related: How to Talk Dirty to Her -Without Being Awkward I’ll get it-if I don’t fall asleep while you’re saying it. Besides, you should have already spelled out your intentions in less obvious ways.įor instance, explain how you’re really enjoying the dating game (but don’t call it that), or say that you’re not long out of something serious, or chat about that golf trip you have coming up with friends. Repeating something pathetic like “Just for tonight, right?” will only anger me. Respect that we’re on the same page-anything else plays into the fantasy that you’re fooling me.
The rest of the preliminary rules are simple: First, if we’ve just met and I’m agreeing (or offering) to leave with you, I know what this is. Just be confident, courteous, and open to whatever happens next. It can take the form of anything from a shared appreciation of a wry moment to a knowingly whispered “Want to get out of here?” However it goes down, don’t get scared and don’t look away. What matters is that you see the situation clearly. Theoretically, eyes can meet across almost any crowded room-a bar, a club, or even Chipotle as you’re standing in line swiping your phone. There’s a difference between being sleazy, which can be fun, and feeling sleazy, which can be depressing. In other words, we don’t need you to be Hugh Grant in a romantic comedy, but we also don’t like that disrespectful pickup-artist crap. When we’re in that mood, it’s a headboard-rattling, sweat-soaked adventure that we agree to take with you. The trouble is, male courtship is stuck in the past. Last year, nearly half of women in a poll reported having had a one-night stand. In a 1989 study, not one woman said she’d agree to casual sex with an attractive man who propositioned her, even though seven out of 10 men would do so if the tables were turned. Related: How to Pleasure a Woman-the Complete Guide to Becoming a Master Lover But oh boy, sometimes nothing else will hit the spot.Īnd these days, we’re serving them up more often than you’d think, with researchers reporting that more women than ever before are seeking no-strings casual sex-or are at least open to the idea.
They’re not nourishing, they don’t satisfy for long, they’re not great for your heart, and they usually come with a small packet of regret. Casual hookups are the supersized fries of dating.
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